I don't know why we women do this to ourselves. This time of year is supposed to be about slowing down, giving thanks, relaxing, taking a midday nap. Instead, we rush, we rush to get it all done, we put everyone before ourselves again, and perhaps we've never been more exhausted than we are now, this Advent season. I invite you now to stop for a moment, sit back and spend a few minutes with me, because I want to tell you something that I don't know if I've stressed enough to you this year.
I would like to stop for a moment to think about you. You who share with me every day your joys, your challenges and your hopes, your pains, your fears, your triumphs.
This year we have experienced a lot together with my patients and the EndoStop SisterHood members. Some have taken it upon themselves to face their deepest pain and learn to love themselves. Some finally dared to say, "Enough is enough, I deserve a different life from now on!" And then there were those magical moments when you informed me that you had conceived the wonderful life you had waited so long for. Now it's more than 1100 Endoblog baby that goes beyond anything I had originally imagined.
As well as really hitting my stride professionally this year, passing my exams as a lifestyle doctor and becoming a Somatic Experiencing practitioner, I've also written a book, the most important one so far, and I'll have more to say about that soon. I founded my second love business, the Dare To Drive, thewhere I help people who are afraid to drive after an accident or for other reasons but want to get back on track. My PhD is going well, my course is not even finished, everything is done, we have published a lot in international scientific journals, and we have a lot of plans for next year in terms of medical futurology.
But this year was not just about professional success. I have experienced heartbreaking losses, including having to say goodbye to my 15-year-old puppy Karma, who was my true soul mate.Today, as I write these lines, it is seven months since she passed away. It is surreal how much life has changed. Seven months ago, I was covered in dog shavings on the floor to preserve the dignity of my 15 year old lady. Now the nappies from that broken package are out because of a four-month-old energy bomb who is an endlessly enthusiastic learner but still has the occasional accident.
Seven months ago, I was carrying a dog on my arm because his legs were no longer holding him. Now I am fighting a dog because he has not had all his vaccinations.
It is unimaginable how life goes on after the loss of someone you have shared 15 years with. I remember waking up hoping that the sun would not rise, that time would stand still, that the world would slow down. But it didn't. It didn't even slow down. And yet, somehow I found myself doing my thing: walking the dog, smiling, doing what I needed to do, as if I were in automatic mode.
Grief is the loneliest feeling. Especially now that I have a new kid in my life, people assume that I'm "over it", that I'm just happy. But that couldn't be further from the truth.Adopting this little one was a huge step. I only did it when I was sure I wasn't putting the burden on him to heal me, to ease my grief. I can love her as she is, unconditionally, as she deserves. But the pain, the loss is still there. Karma's absence is irreplaceable. A part of my heart will always be his, and that will never change.So I go on, learning to live with this void. Because as cruel as it seems, life goes on. Without him. And somehow I learn to go with it.
But it was still a year full of joy and happy moments: I got to see more of the world than I've ever seen before, and I had the freedom I haven't had in a long time. What's perhaps more, and it's up to you, is that I've made a big decision that will change my life forever: I'm moving abroad.Don't worry, my practice is online, so everything will stay the same, nothing will change, except that I'll be an even happier, even more learned psychologist.
(by the way, on December 28, 2024, there will be a live, online workshop in the EndoStop SisterHood Buzzing closed group where I will teach you how to close, evaluate and plan the year in the most efficient way, so join us and you can join us too!)
I was wondering, in all the turmoil of life, have I said enough to you, how much do I appreciate you? I fear that perhaps not. That is why I want to tell you now, in this festive mood, from the bottom of my heart:
Without you I would not be who I am today. You give me the strength to always start again when I get tired, and you show me the impact my work can have on the world.
Yes, you! You there! 🙂 You make my workdays colourful. Working for you is the most beautiful challenge, celebrating your miracle baby is the greatest joy, your recovery is the most beautiful news, celebrating your first and your many painless menstruations with you, laughing with you when your surprised doctor murmurs with furrowed brows: "but endometriosis doesn't just disappear..." If you're happy, I'm happy, your success is my greatest pride.
This year I have made another big and long-lasting decision, in small letters, but I will tattoo on my wrist the mantra that I try to live by. It is a saying attributed to Buddha, The problem is, you think you have time.
Look at this picture, please, you'll understand why I'm asking for this.
I remember this photo; it was taken in February this year for the series we did for Dare To Drive. The photographer asked me if I wanted to bring Karma in front of the graffiti wall. I said no, let the gangsters be here now, we'll do something with Karma in the spring. Something flowery, something playful, something that suits a real lady...
The problem is, you think you have time
I don't ever want to make the mistake of not doing something I want to do because I'm tired or because I'm running out of time. Never again do I want to say that I care about someone not enough times, because it may seem cliché, but I have now painfully experienced first hand that tomorrow is not certain, not guaranteed. If you can love today, love now. If you can do it today, do it now. If you can do it today, do it now. If you can say it today, say it now. And if you can learn today, learn now. If you can go today, go now.
I've been thinking a lot about what I could give you this Christmas that would really convey what you mean to me and how important this community is to me, some of whom I've been going with for 15,100 years. But whether you joined us 15 years ago or 15 minutes ago, this gift is now yours. For some of you it will be some super exciting and useful knowledge, courses, interesting and useful time.. and for others it will change their lives, give them back their faith, their strength, their health, their buoyancy, their joy and hunger for life. Whichever you are, this is for you, and to make sure you don't feel pressed for time, it's yours for a whole year.
Before it's too late, stop for a moment and take time for what matters most: yourself and the people who really matter to you! That's why I want to give you something special this Christmas. Now you have the chance to access all Endoblog courses for a whole year, at a special discounted price. This unique package includes the most popular Annual course in self-knowledge which has already made 437 people's lives better and easier.
The original value of all courses is 276,505 HUF , but now you can have it for an incredible 82,36% discount for only 48,765 HUF.
This is my gift to you, because I deeply believe that self-knowledge and personal development are among the greatest treasures of your life. As Christmas approaches, I would like to thank you for being part of the EndoBlog community and for sharing the most important moments of your life with me.
These courses are included in the MINDENT BELE! - ALL ACCESS PASS.
You can order your Christmas gift until 22:00 on 26 December, after which the courses will no longer be available at discounted prices, but will remain available individually at their original prices.
- Lifestyle Changers Guide - how to really make it happen!
7 days of elaborate diet patterns with recipes, exercise videos and ideas - £3,690 - Endometriosis Diet Dossier
Everything for a successful and lovable transition to an endometriosis diet - £16,274 - Teach your daughter about menstruation!
A responsible, conscious guide for mothers. - 4,890 Ft - Healthy lifestyle while travelling
Practical travel guide for people with special diets and lifestyles - £21,426 - Endometriosis and pain
New ways to manage pain in chronic patients - £34,873 - Shake your life to the core! - 365-day psychological programme
1 year together, 7 minutes a day for yourself. - 179,620 Ft - Advent Calendar Christmas Course
Advent Calendar Meditation and Christmas Health Psychology Course with Nóra Árvai - 15,732 Ft
Total The package is worth 276,505 HUF, now I'm giving everything away for 48765 HUF. The discount is 227,740 HUF, which is a saving of 82.36% compared to the original price. I know I'm out of my mind, take advantage of the fact that Dec 26 at 22:00 at night won't come back. 🙂
If you give the gift of ALL ACCESS PASS, email us, because we can send you a beautiful gift card. When ordering, you need to enter the email address of the person you want to give the surprise to.
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